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This is how I find Malaysian-type of mind set. We always view comment as the negative one. Every time we give comment, we always look at people weakness and mistake. Eventually, we pin point every single weakness that everyone has. And is kinna weird, we Malaysian, tend to accept it very well. I bet everyone is just like me ( perhaps I am similar to everyone ), we always prefer people to give straight forward comment rather than beautify it and make it sound good.

The thing is, we Malaysian again, tend to look straight forward equivalent to harsh. When we commenting on somebody, since we want to comment in the way that us straight forward, we make it harsh. We are harsh to show that we are straight forward.

Is this true?

Is straight forward = harsh?
Is accept = like?
Is comment = always negative?

Many people can accept harsh and straight forward comment, but nobody will like it. I can accept, seriously, but I never like it. And I never like it, doesn't mean I will never listen to it.

Why none of us make a habit, when we are commenting on something, we include both positive and negative comment? Assume that we are in listener shoe, we would like to know our weakness as well as our strength. We need to overcome our weakness, we also need to maintain our strength. If we only know our weakness but not strength, we will never improve. By the way, we will feel ourselves so useless that we don't have strength at all.

We are human, we need egoism for survivor. Sometimes, we need praise from somebody. We need to know, what is our value in conducting something, we also need to know our contribution. If the feed backs are always negative, we will always think that we are not good and this will eventually demotivate us.

The things that I want to say is rather simple, a productive comment is always a combination of positive + negative + ways to improve.

note: I write this post is not because I am angry at somebody, I am just do not satisfy with the way people always give their comments.